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What do I say?

Calm words for the hardest dementia moments — when your person wants to go home, doesn't know you, or is frightened. Tap the moment you're in and get what to say, and what to avoid.

How this works

Their feelings are real, even when the words don't match reality. You're not trying to win or correct — you're helping them feel safe. Almost every script follows the same three steps:

1. Validate — show you hear the feeling.
2. Reassure — comfort, safety, you're here.
3. Redirect — gently move toward something calming.

Learn the pattern and you can handle a moment this app never lists.

e.g. Mom, Dad, Rose — we'll use it gently on the cards. You can skip this.

Nothing you type is saved. This page forgets everything when you close it.

Pick the moment you're in

Tap one to see what may help.

These are communication and comfort ideas — they may help, and every person is different. This isn't medical advice. Your care team is always your source for that.

Try saying

    Things that help

      Try to avoid

      General principles